We spent the long weekend just gone at Culburra Beach with my family. We’re fortunate to have been holidaying there for many years; it’s a slice of paradise.
We spend our days lazing on the lawn in the sun. We play board games and lawn games. We fish. We go to the beach. We cook. We read. We walk. We talk. We laugh. Bliss!
The weekend was spent doing some of these activities. While doing them, I felt content. I felt happy. I found myself wondering why I felt so much more relaxed on this particular weekend compared to how I feel when I’m at home.
So many mothers feel like they’re being selfish if they spend time doing something purely for their own enjoyment, even if it’s just for a few minutes a day. We feel guilty about it. We feel our enjoyment is occurring at the expense of our child. But that’s a ridiculous attitude!
When you don’t have a child, you can spend all of your spare time doing things you love. You can make plans spontaneously. You can do activities without interruption. You can plan how much sleep you’ll get. You largely don’t have to think about anyone but yourself.
Motherhood isn’t like this. You can’t clock off at
A mother needs to take time for herself when she has the opportunity because she doesn’t know when the next opportunity will present itself.
When I get to do things I enjoy, I’m a happier person and a better mother. When I feel relaxed, I have more patience. When I
By the same token, when I’m exhausted, I have no patience. When I haven’t left the house for days, I feel depressed. When I haven’t done any exercise, my anxiety is harder to manage. When I’ve had no “me time,” I feel lost. When I haven’t had any “me time,” I feel resentful.
A mother is not selfish when she chooses to do things for herself. She is simply
We choose to have children because we believe they’ll enrich our lives; that they’ll add fun; value; love; meaning. They do! When you find yourself enjoying your children, enjoying some “me time” and enjoying life as a whole then soak it up – don’t counteract it with guilt.
A family reaps what a mother sows. Don’t sow ‘mum guilt.’ It does not
Enjoy the week that lies ahead mamas, and please, schedule in some much needed me-time!