Sam went away for a couple of nights recently and I stayed home with Henry. Spending nights apart is nothing new, but this time was different. Henry’s canine teeth were coming through (parents who warned me about canines were oh
But here’s what I did do that weekend. I developed a whole new appreciation for single mothers.
There were times during the day that
At many points, I
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not whining that I had to look after my own child for a couple of days. I’m very capable of doing
Single mamas, you really are the underdog. You slog it out, often with no recognition for the amazing job you’re doing. You manage to be everything to your child – the disciplinarian and the peacekeeper; the talker and the listener; the provider and the keeper of the home. You are masters of multi-tasking. You are brilliant problem solvers. You attend your needs last, and most of the time, you have no choice in doing so. You say “no” to social invitations, not because you don’t want to go, but because you can’t. There are other things you say “no” to, not because you don’t want them, but because you understand that sacrifices need to be made in order to give your child the life you want them to have.
I honestly don’t know how you manage to get through every day without having the breaks you no doubt need. I admire your courage, your independence
I hope you have people in your life that help, especially when you refuse to ask for it, which is usually when you need it the most. I hope that when your children are older they appreciate the blood, sweat
There have been many days that you’ve doubted yourself; that you felt like you couldn’t keep going; that you felt like you weren’t a good mother. There will be many more. None of us are immune from that. But, on those days, just take a moment to look at your child, to really look at them. Then remind yourself that you did that… you raised that beautiful child, all on your own.
Single mamas, hats off to you! You are strong. You are capable. You are brave. For all that and more, you should feel very proud.